Divorce: a harrowing experience

One of the most painful experiences of life, but why countless couples have to go through, is the separation, divorce or breakup, and sometimes against their will. A lot of couples have to leave the relationship, despite themselves.

The reasons may be varied: for there is abuse, infidelity, indifference, neglect, etc.. The important thing here is to emphasize that when a relationship ends and has been significant, they start a mourning process that applies equally to both partners , children and their families.

The process is painful, conflicted and live with anxiety and depression. It is very difficult to realize that thwart a serious and committed relationship requires a break and detachment: promises, loves, friendships, families, routines, habits, expectations, a new scheme of life that had long-term planning of a project shared life.

Experience loneliness and not having more to the love with which I always promised I would end up living together. But that illusion and that promise was shattered in a moment. And now what do I do with my time, my loneliness and my strong sense of abandonment and frustration?

Who do I share?

Different feelings are held in this painful experience:

Guilt

The world of people in this process literally comes down and feel they can never get out of this situation, mixed feelings. There is confusion and recrimination towards the other or to itself. And yes there .... And if there were ... Maybe so ... But I did not do or not do this or that ...

In general, both partners feel the weight of guilt in the process, giving results in a depressed mood and internal recriminations for his part in the deterioration of the relationship as a couple.

The process seems interminable, in addition to the stress of the event is huge. It is important to begin to become aware of our responsibility in the process, so it is only going to be able to lock out the best rid of it.

The sense of failure ...

The couple relationship is one of the links that will invest more energy, time, commitment, dreams, shared bed too long, friends, children, important events, achievements, sleepless nights, arguments, definitions, dreams, illusions, travel, places visited, the construction of dreams and projects.

And suddenly, we are left with nothing of our emotional investment, when you no longer have the pain, frustration, and sense of failure dominate the whole picture of our emotional life.

This is one of the steps is harder to overcome because of the importance of what we lost, and the security and confidence. Since we failed in one of the most important of our lives. And hence also feed the guilt and depression. Our future has become uncertain.

The emotional instability ...

These breaks lead to a destabilization because it requires you to change your identity, I'm not a woman or a man with a steady partner, however, now I find myself alone, alone and full of remorse, guilt and sadness.

Insecurity takes place, and we believe that we will never reset. We have lost the compass, which is safe and what is uncertain?

All suffer from this sense of instability that seems to run over us and went through all the feelings: isolation, sadness, rage, anger, abandonment, helplessness, uncertainty.

It's back to build a new identity. Build a different life and different, and find it hard to open up to new experiences. At times we do not know of anything or anyone. At other times, we are really destructive thoughts and had a very, very, very wrong ...

The experience becomes heartbreaking ... We tear the life, soul and guts ... It is difficult to determine the recovery time of the process depends on each partner, the conditions of rupture and of the significance of the relationship.

However, you can always get out of there, they realize that it is a process and we need to live strong feelings, very deep and that nothing can live them for us ...

Is it really possible recovery?

Recovery is possible, but again I suggest that it is necessary to go through the various parts of the process, otherwise we will stay in an unfinished mourning hoping that someday things will change.

Healing the wounds takes time, and yes there are children involved, i keep seeing necessarily require our former partner, like it or not.

Here are some proven tips to make the process lighter, I said to skip it, but do not abandon your wounds and continue with your life, in spite of everything:

Make awareness of the history of the couple. It is important to recognize that despite all the feelings experienced, confusion and paralysis are normal. It is necessary to assume that we participated in this break, we are not victims, towards the contrary, we have our share of responsibility in the process.

Surely it was toxic relationship, loveless, dysfunctional, abusive, abusive and full of experiences rather than being upset. Where have all suffered, and when I say all, are all members of the couple, their children and their families.

The experience of divorce or separation is a traumatic experience, especially when carried out in situations of great pain and violence.

Although we believe that the other is at fault, we participated, and that is the most painful to accept.

Take away from the situation

The people involved in this process require to step back and take a few days to rethink what we live and experience. In these processes deteriorate the quality of life in every way, at work, social, performance is low, there are failures in care, changes in sleep patterns, food.

Deal are finding it hard to concentrate too, would be ideal to take a little vacation, but neither these, they will modify the internal state, because it has the feeling of not fitting in anywhere.

It is an inner feeling that we will take anywhere where we are, remember we lost the north, and little by little, we have to regain it.

We must go to need to go glimpsing redirecting our lives, even when we are so hurt ...

Support from friends and family is essential.

It is very important that both partners have an important safety net to vent, psychotherapy is a good way of coping, support groups, books, workshops, stay in touch with others ...

It is best to go through the process together than alone, although he calls us most is isolation.

Do not strain, but yes, no or only stay alone all the time, because anyway, we've got to go ...

No fighting with emotions: the range of sensations and feelings that appear in the normal process, not fight with them, they are there and they're there, you need to understand that we can not govern.

We are in a grieving process and a new adaptation to a different reality to which we have lived long ago.

A lot of people, not only in the separation process, try to avoid deep and painful processes by alcohol or drugs or amphetamines, or perhaps, others.

Remember this is a recovery process that must occur holistically, in the physical, emotional, spiritual and social ...

Better opt for the best in your life, have been exposed both to great pain and toxicity ....

Remember is a process that anyone can jump and when you're ready, you slowly go back to a better way to live.

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